How many times do we need to feel like we need to be happy and positive on the outside when on the inside we are really struggling? Even if your energy levels are usually up at 100, I’m sure there are days when you are down at a 90, or a 70, or even 10 or lower. It can get really hard sometimes, I’ve been there! There have been times when I’ve felt like I was at a -10 or even -20 . It is ok to feel that way. In this episode I will share some tips that can help you if you are struggling.
Let’s be clear, it is ok to not be at your best all the time! Of course, you want to be at your peak as much as possible, but the reality is it’s not possible to be there all the time and that’s ok. Life is a journey, there are ups and downs, it is completely normal. The negatives are a part of life, and in the grand scheme of your life it is just a blink of an eye, you can get through it. You can choose to stay in the bad moments of your life and dwell on them, but you don’t have to. Don’t hold onto the negative moments, let’s move forward. I have five tips that can help you overcome the feeling of not being ok and get you back to being ok.
First and foremost, know that it is ok to feel not ok. It is normal. When those moments happen, know that it is a part of life. It happens to every single person. Every person on this earth has struggled with something at one point or another. Don’t be ashamed of yourself, be honest with yourself when you aren’t feeling ok. Don’t beat yourself up about it. Know that it happens and it is ok but let’s not stay there forever.
The second tip is to acknowledge to yourself that you aren’t feeling ok. Be aware of your problems and embrace it. Give yourself permission to feel this way. As you embrace it, work through the emotions. Think about what you’re feeling and try to figure out where it’s coming from. If you don’t admit to yourself that you’re struggling, you can’t figure out where it’s coming from, and you won’t be able to work through it. Dismissing your feelings won’t help you. Acknowledging the feelings without finding the source of them will not help you. You need to find the source of your emotions so that you can work through it and overcome it.
My third tip is to seek help when you need it. There is nothing wrong with seeing a therapist. They have the tools and strategies to help you work through your problems. Would you go on a road trip without a map? Ok, maybe you would, but if you don’t know the area you will probably get lost, and it will take you longer to get where you’re going. Why not have a guide or a map to help you out? It will help you overcome your problems faster than you might have otherwise. Don’t be afraid of asking for help. I’ve done it and it was one of the best decisions of my life. He helped me get out of my darkest of dark moments and because of that I’ve become who I am today.
The fourth tip is to remember that it will not last forever. If you chose to not deal with the problem, it will be around for a long time but if you work through it you will overcome the struggle. You are worthy of working through it and feeling great! By doing the work you will grow and you can move past it.
My final tip is to find the positives. This can help in so many aspects of our lives. It can be so easy to focus on the negatives and the things that suck, especially when you’re struggling. Try moving your mind to focus on the positives. They can be small or big. When I’m struggling, I tend to downplay the big positives in my life. It can be hard to find them. Your positives could be, you have a house, or you have shoes, or you can see. Anything that you are grateful for. This probably won’t pick you up 100% but it will help at least a little and can give you the strength to keep going.
There are always going to be days when you don’t feel great. I hope you don’t have many of those days, but I can tell you when you do, they will not last. It is normal to feel that way. Take these tips and try to work your way through your struggles. You will overcome your challenges and you will be stronger. I know you can do it.
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