Do you believe in affirmations? Believe it or not, there is a lot of scientific research and evidence supporting the use of affirmations. In the opinion of science, affirmations are real and do have merit. They will help you to live your life to the max! So why do so many people think they are bogus? It’s time to set it straight and let people know, that affirmations are real and they work. And in this episode, I dive into exactly how and why they do!
So, what are affirmations? First and foremost, affirmations are short sentences we say that can change our conscious and subconscious mind to improve our lives and make us better and happier. They are usually “I am” statements such as “I am strong” or “I am successful.” Affirmations put out energy into the universe and pulls back energy of what you are and what you want to be. The entire universe is energy, our thoughts our words, the chair you may or may not be sitting on. Everything breaks down to energy, and all energy is love. When you say an affirmation, you are reinforcing that statement to yourself.
There has been MRI evidence that suggests certain neural pathways increase when people practice self-affirming tasks. Just by saying affirmations, your brain is building stronger, bigger, and better pathways. There’s more to it than that of course, but we’re just going to scratch the surface. In the 1980’s a self-affirmation theory came about which has three points to it. The first point is about global narrative, the story you are telling yourself about yourself. Some people tell themselves good things about themselves, but other people tell themselves terrible things. Things like they suck, that they are failure, and so on. By saying affirmations, you can shift the global narrative you are telling yourself from a negative one, to a positive one. You can change your self-identity and change your mindset. If you already have a positive self-identity, saying affirmations can help you maintain it!
The second part of the self-affirming theory is to not be exceptional or perfect but to be competent and adequate in different areas you value. This is a harsh one and can be hard to agree with. However, we are all human so nothing we do is perfect. We all have different views of perfect too, so what I see as perfect may not be what you see as perfect. You have to let go of the tendency to want to be perfect, it’s holding you back. Instead of trying to make things perfect, be flexible and adaptive. Be confident in the things that you are good at and work and getting better at things that you value. You will never reach perfection because there’s always something that can be improved but strive to make yourself better and strive to be good at the things that you care about.
The third point of the self-affirming theory is we act in ways that we authentically merit acknowledgement. When I first read this I was incredibly confused, I don’t always want recognition or a pat on the back. We aren’t saying these affirmations to get the pat on the back, we’re saying them because we want to resonate with them, and as we live them out people will acknowledge it. For an example, say your affirmation is “I am a responsible parent.” So you make he decisions that allow you to be a responsible parent and you feel good for doing them. You aren’t doing it to hear somebody congratulate you for being an excellent parent. You’re doing because you know it’s good for your kid and it feels good to you. People will notice it and may come up to thank you. You authentically have earned that acknowledgement.
Affirmations can be huge, and they can change your life for the better. When I first started saying my affirmations, I thought it was a bunch of ridiculousness, I didn’t believe in them, but I gave them a fair shake. Then as I kept going, I was amazed! Things were coming my way and I was being the person I wanted to be. I was happier and I felt incredible. It’s not an instant turn around, it takes time, but it is so worth it. If you regularly practice affirmations, it will help you reduce stress. It can help you change your unwanted behavior, boost your self-esteem, give you a positive mindset, and more!
How can you get the most out affirmations? Let me share what I do. I don’t stand in front of a mirror, but if you want to do that, great go ahead! I say my affirmations three times out loud, and I take a deep breath. As I inhale, I think of an example of a time I proved that affirmation. So, let’s say my affirmation is “I am inspiring”. I say that phrase out loud and then I inhale and think about a time when I inspired someone such as when I was a choir director and I inspired one of my students. Then I will say that affirmation again and take another inhale and think of a different moment when I inspired someone. Then I do that one more time with a different moment and with even more gusto! I do that for all of my affirmations. Yes, it takes a bit of time, but it is effective and truly beneficial. The example doesn’t need to be on the same level as what you want or going for and that is ok! Eventually you will gain more examples and it will be easier and easier to think of them!
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