Do you ever feel like you aren’t enough? Or maybe you feel like you don’t deserve something? Many times this stems from having a low self-esteem. While we see this in kids quite a bit, adults struggle with it just as much. In this episode of the Jonesin’ for Show we chat with veteran educator, mother, and motivational speaker and coach Amy Kraus on how we can build our self-esteem. If you are ready to feel good about yourself or want to help someone feel great, then keep on reading/listening/watching!
Amy Kraus is all about building kids up and helping to give them confidence. Her mission is to step in front of every kid she possibly can and tell them that they are amazing just for being them. For the past three years Amy was a reading specialist and saw many kids. Some of those kids didn’t know where they would be sleeping that night to others that had everything. She noticed that regardless of the child's circumstances, the same thing kept popping up. They didn’t feel like they were heard or that they could be who they were. They felt so much pressure to fit in with the rest of the kids. When COVID hit, Amy decided that there was more out there that she wanted to be doing, so she transitioned away from teaching. She wanted to create a program where kids or parents could get help and could be open and honest allowing her to show them that they are amazing individuals.
A lot of times kids think that if they have all of this stuff, like a fancy pair of shoes or the newest phone they will feel better about themselves and be accepted by their peers. Sometimes adults think that way too. Amy wants to help them see that what kind of shoes they have on their feet aren’t what’s important, it’s what is inside them and how they can share their gifts that’s important. It’s very important to learn to love yourself for who you are, not for how much stuff you own. A big part of what Amy does for both kids and parents is help them figure out why their child is acting the way they are. For example, one of her kids was having melt down after melt down. At first she thought it was her fault and that she was a bad mother. She needed to figure out what was wrong so that she could help her child. It could be something as simple as they didn’t get enough sleep or didn’t have any breakfast, sometimes all they need is just a hug.
Amy does a lot of mindset work. She has children and adults alike write down positive statements about themselves and who they are, and then hang it up on their wall. When they continuously see those words on their wall, they really start to believe it. It’s really about learning to love yourself. It is also important to let go of all of your negative feelings. You need to learn how to let things go and remember the positives. Look for the positives in your life rather than the negatives. Empathy is also huge. You never know what other people are going through, but you need to try to step into other people’s shoes and try to see how they’re feeling before making judgements about them. Or better yet, don’t make any judgements!
It is also very important to forgive yourself when things go wrong. You can’t put yourself down if things don’t go to plan or if you make a mistake. Parents are role models for their children. If the child hears their parent saying something negative about themselves, that sticks with them and it becomes something that they think is ok to do. However, if you tell yourself that it’s ok when you make a mistake and your child hears it, then they will learn that it’s ok to make mistakes. It is important to take a step back and take a deep breath when mistakes are made or when you feel stressed. Step into positivity and forgive yourself when bad things happen. You are learning and it’s ok to make mistakes. Do the best you can, give your child love, give them what they need, but you need to love yourself first. Continue to remind yourself that you are amazing just the way you are and share that with your kids as well.
If you want to reach out to Amy, you can find her on Instagram @amythemotivationalmom and you can find the rest of her social media in her Instagram bio as well! I would love to hear what you think about Building Self-Esteem and the interview with Amy Kraus! Please send me a message on social media @Jonesinfor or email me at [email protected]