You Are Enough - Episode 89

The first thing is to know that it is a mindset. Knowing that you are enough is a mindset you need to take on. Many times, we feel like we aren’t worthy, that we’re lacking something in our lives that make us not enough. Maybe it doesn’t feel like a choice to believe you aren’t enough because society or someone in your life is pushing you to believe that you need to do this, that, and the other thing, or that you need all these different things or change something about yourself to be enough of a person, but it’s not true. Choose to feel worthy and know that you are enough. It takes time and work to make that change, but you have the power to change your mindset. It all boils to choosing and believing. You were born worthy. You were born enough. Now embrace it! If something comes up in your life that makes you feel unworthy, stop and think about it and remember that you are worthy. It is ok for you to have these good things in your life.

The second strategy ties in with the first, and that is to change the narrative. What story are you telling yourself? Are you telling yourself that you aren’t worthy? It’s great to be humble of course, but you still are worthy of good things in your life. What kind of language are you using about yourself, are you using negative language and saying things like “I don’t deserve that” or “I’m not enough”? When you catch yourself thinking those things, turn it around and tell yourself “I am enough, and I can have good things in my life.” We all have an inner dialogue, and often times we aren’t so nice to ourselves. Be aware of the narrative that you are telling yourself. If it’s negative, choose to change that story.

My third tip is to acknowledge, accept, and appreciate where you are in your life. Are you where you want to be? Maybe, but probably not. There are probably things you want to change, and that’s ok! That doesn’t mean that you aren’t enough, it just means that there are things you want to grow and improve on. Acknowledge and accept where you are right now, even if there are things you want to change. We learn from the past and we can grow from that. Appreciate where you are right now and that you’ve grown from your previous experiences and that you will continue to grow through each experience that you have. All of these things can be tricky. Some people like to turn a blind eye and don’t acknowledge where they’re at because they’d rather live in some kind of dream world. They don’t want to accept where they are really at, but you are here. Even if you are going through some challenges right now, appreciate that, so then when you come out of it on the other side, you’ll be stronger and wiser and better from it. It’s easier said than done, but it is totally possible.

The fourth strategy is to focus on growth and progress but not perfection. You are enough just as you are, but that doesn’t mean you can’t learn, change, and grow. As humans we are lucky enough to have so many different experiences! Some are good and amazing, and some are not so great. Don’t focus on becoming perfect with every part of your life, life isn’t perfect. People mess up, we make mistakes. Do your best to let that go and live your life but continue to learn and grow. When you make mistakes figure out what you did wrong and apply it to your future so that you don’t make that mistake again. When other people make mistakes give them grace and understand that they’re only human.

My final strategy to help you know that you are enough is giving up the language of hate. This can be particularly challenging, especially if you are a person that hates yourself. I hated myself for the longest time, I hated who I saw in the mirror, and I wanted to get as far away from myself as possible, but the thing is, you can’t get away from yourself. As much as you may feel like you hate yourself, stop saying it. Focus on the growth that you’ve had, and you are currently having. As soon as the thoughts of hatred enter your mind, turn your focus to growth. You might only find something tiny but grab on to it and let it grow. See that growth and appreciate it. You can’t hate yourself into loving yourself.

Knowing that you are enough doesn’t mean that you don’t need help at times and that you aren’t going to make mistakes. You aren’t all powerful, it doesn’t mean that you have absolutely everything in live. It means that you are made to be you, just as you are. You have a purpose; you can grow and learn and change. You don’t need to try to be anything, you don’t need any validation because you are enough. Know that, work at believing it, because once you know you are enough it’s an incredible feeling. I would love to hear what you think about You Are Enough! Send me a message on social media @Jonesinfor or send me an email at spencer@spencermjones.com.