Overcoming a Hard Day

The first thing you need to remember to do is breathe. When something rough happens, just stop and breathe. Personally, I breathe in through my nose for two or three seconds and then exhale for two or three seconds. This helps to get rid of frustration and make you a bit calmer. Once you are calm you’ll be able to face the problem with a clear head, instead of going at it from anger or some other potentially destructive emotion. This won’t solve things completely, but it can help.

Secondly, look for the positives in your situation. Look for things that you or other people can benefit from in the situation. It doesn’t mean that the problem will become easier but it can help you look towards the future and the good things that can come.

The third thing that can help is to do a work out and sweat it out. This can help you remove stress and can help you get out some anger. Be cautious though, because you don’t want to get hurt in this process. I know personally that when I’m angry I can tend to lift weights that are too heavy for me. Remember that form is king and if I’m working out from a place of anger I may use improper form and injure myself. So while working out is a great tool, set your ego aside and be sure to use proper form.

A fourth tip to overcome a bad day is to write it out. Write out the situation that is frustrating you in a journal or in a notebook. It is very important to let out your frustrations. If you don’t let it out, it can keep building and building inside your head until suddenly it’s way out of proportion. Use your own words, it doesn’t need to be long, just do whatever works for you. As you write it down, analyze the situations and see all of the different aspects of it. Having the problem written down will keep it in perspective and can help you find some solutions.

The fifth thing you can do is share the problem with someone. You can tell a family member, a good friend, or a therapist. Who ever you tell, share what’s going on with you. They can give you their point of view on things and can just be there for you. It will also again help you to put things in perspective and can help you find solutions to your problem. The person you tell might not necessarily be able to give you any help, but just ask if they’ll listen to your problem. Just having them listen to you can be helpful.

My sixth tip for you is leave your problems at the door. If you had a problem at work, leave the problem there, don’t carry it with you the rest of the day. As soon as you leave work tell yourself not to worry about the issue. If you bring it home and worry about it the rest of the day, it can affect everything else you do. You can deal with the problem tomorrow when you get back to work. You may even be able to deal with it better the next day when you aren’t so emotional. This isn’t always an easy thing to do, but the people you come home to at night deserve to have the best you when you get home.

A final thing you can do is meditate. Meditation is something I talk about a lot. Some people aren’t ready for it but meditation can really help to free you from your emotions. Personally, I find a place to sit or lay comfortably and then I breathe slowly and concentrate on my breathing. When a thought pops into my head I acknowledge it, but send it away for the time. Once I’m into the meditation I try to look at my problem from an outside perspective to get a different, not personal, angle. Meditation can be very helpful to just free up your mind and remove yourself from the negative emotions of the problem.

I hope that these tips can help you overcome a hard day. Please remember that we all have rough days. Some are better than others. Sometimes one tip may do the trick and other times it may take a few. Be strong, overcome, and you’ll be better because of it!

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